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Who really said it

Education is the ability to listen to almost anything without losing your temper or your self-confidence

Attributed to Robert Frost 1874–1963 · American poet
Attributed In copyright

Frost really did say this — though not in these words. Addressing Dartmouth’s graduating class in June 1955, he told them they had been “broadened and enlarged to where you can listen to almost anything without losing your temper or your self-confidence.” The tidy one-liner above is a condensation of that sentence, and the source two quotation dictionaries give for it is Reader’s Digest, April 1960 — an issue no accessible archive lets us read, so the exact popular wording cannot be pinned to a primary text.

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“Education is the ability to listen to almost anything without losing your temper or your self-confidence” Robert Frost, "Don't Get Converted. Stay," address at the Dartmouth commencement, June 1955; first published in the Dartmouth Alumni Magazine, July 1955, and reprinted in Robert Frost: Poetry and Prose (Holt, Rinehart and Winston, 1972). Frost's own wording: "You've been broadened and enlarged to where you can listen to almost anything without losing your temper or your self-confidence." The familiar condensed form is credited to him in Reader's Digest, April 1960. Traced by Quotle.info

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Provenance

The sentence Frost actually spoke

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Don’t Get Converted. Stay
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Address at the Dartmouth College commencement, June 1955
First published
Dartmouth Alumni Magazine, July 1955
Reprinted in
Robert Frost: Poetry and Prose, ed. Lathem & Thompson (1972)

You’ve been broadened and enlarged to where you can listen to almost anything without losing your temper or your self-confidence. Excerpts from an address

Frost’s own wording, as printed in Robert Frost: Poetry and Prose (1972). It sits inside a passage of advice to the graduating class about accepting an opponent’s premises instead of contradicting them; only the sentence itself is reproduced here, as the text remains in copyright.

The passage in Robert Frost: Poetry and Prose (1972)

How the line travelled

In copyright

The text quoted here is the one printed in Robert Frost: Poetry and Prose, which carries a 1972 copyright by Holt, Rinehart and Winston, Inc., and Frost’s prose is still under active rights management by his estate. The 1955 date alone would not settle it: United States works published between 1929 and 1963 entered the public domain unless their copyright was renewed in the twenty-eighth year, so the 1972 collection, not the age of the address, is what the in-copyright status rests on. The single sentence is quoted here for identification and verification.

Rights status is our research, not legal advice — and copyright varies by country and edition. For commercial or published use, confirm with the rightsholder. See terms.

Fact-check

Not a misattribution — a compression

Nobody stole this line from Frost, and no rival claimant has a better case. What happened is smaller and more ordinary: a loose spoken sentence was tightened into an aphorism, and then the anthologies went to work on the aphorism.

Robert Frost, condensed reworded

Frost’s documented sentence is second-person and much looser — “You’ve been broadened and enlarged to where you can listen to almost anything…” ↗. The familiar “Education is the ability to…” opening does not appear anywhere in Robert Frost: Poetry and Prose, the standard one-volume edition of his prose, nor in Lathem’s Interviews with Robert Frost.

a half-line still signed “Robert Frost” truncated

A run of speakers’ handbooks and classroom books prints only the first half — “without losing your temper. —Robert Frost” ↗ — dropping the self-confidence clause that does most of the work.

Anonymous credit lost

Webster’s 21st Century Book of Quotations runs the line with no author at all, just “—Anonymous” ↗.

The thought is Frost’s and he said it out loud to a graduating class; the sentence you see quoted is a tidied-up version of it, and the source the quotation dictionaries point to for that version is Reader’s Digest, April 1960 ↗.

Context

Why the tidy version travels and the real one doesn’t

Frost’s sentence is second-person and conversational: he is telling a specific room of graduating students what four years has done to them. The version that spread is third-person and definitional — education is the ability to… — and definitions are what anthologies, speakers’ handbooks and teacher gift books are shopping for. The compression is not a distortion of his meaning so much as a change of grammatical mood, and that change is exactly what made the line portable.

There is a small irony in it. A sentence about listening to almost anything without losing your self-confidence lost its own footing twice over: first its author’s phrasing, then — in at least one widely sold reference book — his name.

“Don’t Get Converted. Stay.”

What Frost was actually telling the graduates

The passage is advice about how to argue. Frost’s formula, in his words, is to politely accept the other person’s premises rather than contradict them — take the argument up where it is handed to you, and then show what you can make of it. The line about listening without losing your temper is the pay-off of that advice, not a definition of education.

He then reaches for an example: a student out of the ‘Bible belt’ who is confronted with the fact of evolution and is supposed to be shaken about God by it. Read in place, the sentence is a claim about surviving disagreement — narrower, and better, than the poster version.

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The sentence in Frost’s own wordsopenlibrary.org

Full-text hits showing the line inside Robert Frost: Poetry and Prose (1972), The Robert Frost Reader and The Dartmouth Reader.
The editors’ note on the addressopenlibrary.org

Lathem and Thompson’s acknowledgement identifying “Don’t Get Converted. Stay” as an address delivered at the Dartmouth commencement of June 1955.
The Reader’s Digest citationopenlibrary.org

Simpson’s Contemporary Quotations and Tripp’s International Thesaurus of Quotations, both citing “Robert Frost, Reader’s Digest, April 1960.”
Robert Frost: Poetry and Prose (1972)archive.org

The Lathem–Thompson edition itself, borrowable at the Internet Archive.
The address in full, free to readarchive.dartmouthalumnimagazine.com

“The Commencement Address” in the Dartmouth Alumni Magazine, July 1955 — the whole talk, transcribed from a tape recording, with Frost’s sentence in place.
Dartmouth Alumni Magazine, July 1955archive.dartmouthalumnimagazine.com

The full July 1955 issue in Dartmouth’s magazine archive — the number Frost’s editors name as the address’s first publication.
Wikiquote: Robert Frosten.wikiquote.org

Wikiquote’s Frost page — the line is not there in any section, and the word “temper” does not appear on it at all.
Quote Investigator: no entryquoteinvestigator.com

A search of Quote Investigator returns nothing found — the specialists have never traced this line.

About the author

Robert Frost

Robert Frost

1874–1963 · American poet · spoke at Dartmouth’s June 1955 commencement

Frost built a career out of plain New England speech that turns out, on second reading, to be argument. He had a long and tangled relationship with Dartmouth: he enrolled as a young man and left within months, then came back across his life as a speaker and honorary graduate — the first person to receive two honorary degrees from the college (1933 and 1955). The 1955 commencement address that produced this line is Frost in his late public register: conversational, a little sly, and giving practical advice about how to disagree.

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Robert Frost, “Don’t Get Converted. Stay: Excerpts from an Address,” in Robert Frost: Poetry and Prose, ed. Edward Connery Lathem and Lawrance Thompson (New York: Holt, Rinehart and Winston, 1972), beginning at 419. Address delivered at the Dartmouth College commencement, June 1955; first published in the Dartmouth Alumni Magazine, July 1955. For the condensed wording, see James B. Simpson, Contemporary Quotations (1964), which cites Reader’s Digest, April 1960.

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