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Who really said it

If you love somebody, let them go, for if they return, they were always yours

Not Kahlil Gibran — a 20th-century American saying Unknown Origin unidentified — earliest documented version dates to 1969, 38 years after Gibran's death
Disputed Rights unconfirmed

This exact wording traces to an anonymous college student’s saying published by educator Jess Lair in 1969 and popularized by artist Peter Max in 1972 — not to Kahlil Gibran, who died in 1931. It does not appear in any of Gibran’s published books or letters, and is absent from Wikiquote’s lists of both his sourced and his misattributed quotes.

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“If you love somebody, let them go, for if they return, they were always yours” often misattributed to Kahlil Gibran; true author unknown (quotle.info)

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Provenance

The source

Earliest documented version
Anonymous college student, quoted in Jess Lair, I Ain’t Much, Baby — But I’m All I’ve Got (privately published, 1969)
Popularized by
Peter Max, syndicated “Meditation” comic panel (1972), credited only to “Unknown”
Falsely attributed to
Richard Bach (from the 1990s) and, more recently, Kahlil Gibran
Gibran connection
None found in his published works; Gibran died in 1931, decades before this wording is documented

If you want something very, very badly, let it go free. If it comes back to you, it’s yours forever. If it doesn’t come back, it was never yours to begin with.

The earliest documented ancestor of the modern quote, as recorded by Jess Lair in 1969 — not Gibran’s wording, and not this exact phrasing.

Archived book
I Ain't Much, Baby—But I'm All I've Got (1969) on Internet Archive
Quote Origin: If You Love Someone, Set Them Free — Quote Investigator

How the misattribution happened

The wording’s true author has never been identified, so no rights holder can be named. Treat it as an unattributable modern folk saying, not as Gibran’s public-domain or copyrighted text.

Fact-check

Often misattributed

This is one of the internet’s most-recycled “inspirational” sayings, and Kahlil Gibran is only its latest false author.

Attributed to Kahlil Gibran Fabricated attribution

Goodreads, BrainyQuote, and similar sites credit Gibran with no book, letter, or edition ever cited; Goodreads itself notes ↗ such quotes are community-submitted and unverified.

Attributed to novelist Richard Bach Debunked

Quote Investigator found no evidence ↗ that Bach ever wrote or used the phrase, though it circulated under his name for years.

Wikiquote's editors

The quote appears in neither Gibran’s sourced quotes nor his misattributed-quotes section ↗, meaning even dedicated quote-checkers haven’t linked it to him.

The saying’s real root is an anonymous American student’s note from 1969 — nearly four decades after Gibran died in 1931 — as documented by Quote Investigator ↗.

Context

A saying that keeps changing authors

The “if you love something, set it free” family of sayings is one of the most persistent pieces of American folk wisdom, cycling through posters, comic panels, celebrity interviews, and now social media for over fifty years — each new era reattaching it to a bigger name.

Kahlil Gibran, whose 1923 book The Prophet made him one of the best-selling poets in American history, is a natural magnet for this kind of relabeling: his real writing is aphoristic and quotable enough that invented lines blend in easily.

Gibran died in 1931 — 38 years before this saying's earliest documented trace.

Full documented timeline

1969 — An anonymous college student gives educator Jess Lair the saying “If you want something very, very badly, let it go free. If it comes back to you, it’s yours forever,” printed in Lair’s book I Ain’t Much, Baby—But I’m All I’ve Got.

1972 — Artist Peter Max runs a shortened version in his syndicated “Meditation” comic panel, crediting it to “Unknown.”

1975–1978 — The saying spreads through Reader’s Digest, a photo caption in basketball player Bill Walton’s office, and an interview with actor Lee Majors.

1990s onward — The phrase is wrongly credited to novelist Richard Bach, and in more recent decades to Kahlil Gibran, in the reworded “let them go…they were always yours” form used on quote sites today.

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Quote Origin: If You Love Someone, Set Them Freequoteinvestigator.com

Traces the documented 1969–1990s lineage of this saying and its misattribution to Richard Bach
Kahlil Gibranen.wikiquote.org

Gibran's sourced quotes and separate misattributed-quotes list — this saying is in neither
Quote by Kahlil Gibran: 'If you love somebody...'goodreads.com

Shows the popular but uncited attribution to Gibran, with Goodreads' own unverified-quotes disclaimer
I Ain't Much, Baby—But I'm All I've Gotarchive.org

Jess Lair's 1969 book containing the earliest documented ancestor of the saying
Kahlil Gibranen.wikipedia.org

Biographical details confirming Gibran's 1883–1931 dates, decades before this saying is documented

The author

About Unknown

Unknown

Origin unidentified · American inspirational saying first documented in 1969

No single author has ever been credibly identified. Quote researcher Garson O’Toole traced the earliest known version to an anonymous college student who gave the saying to educator Jess Lair around 1969; it was popularized in 1972 by graphic artist Peter Max, who credited it only to “Unknown.” The saying was later wrongly attached to novelist Richard Bach, and more recently to Kahlil Gibran.

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The primary source (Chicago)

Garson O’Toole, “Quote Origin: If You Love Someone, Set Them Free. If They Come Back They’re Yours,” Quote Investigator, April 8, 2012, citing Jess Lair, I Ain’t Much, Baby—But I’m All I’ve Got (Garden City, NY: Doubleday, 1972; copyright 1969, 1972).

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