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So it goes

Written by Kurt Vonnegut 1922–2007 · American novelist & essayist
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Vonnegut’s, and inseparable from him. Three words that recur through Slaughterhouse-Five (1969) whenever death or mortality comes up — and, as the novel’s critics note, as a narrative transition and as comic relief besides. In the novel it is not his own motto but a borrowed formula: it is what the Tralfamadorians say about the dead, which Billy Pilgrim adopts. He had already used it in the introduction he added to Mother Night in 1966.

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“So it goes” Kurt Vonnegut, Slaughterhouse-Five (New York: Delacorte Press, 1969) — the novel’s recurring refrain; also used in his 1966 introduction to Mother Night

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Provenance

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Work
Slaughterhouse-Five, or The Children’s Crusade: A Duty-Dance with Death
First published
31 March 1969 — Delacorte Press, New York
How it is used
A refrain, recurring whenever death is mentioned — the Tralfamadorians’ formula, adopted by the narrator
Earlier use
Vonnegut’s 1966 introduction to Mother Night (first published 1962)

The most important thing I learned on Tralfamadore was that when a person dies he only appears to die. He is still very much alive in the past, so it is very silly for people to cry at his funeral. All moments, past, present, and future, always have existed, always will exist. … When a Tralfamadorian sees a corpse, all he thinks is that the dead person is in bad condition in that particular moment, but that the same person is just fine in plenty of other moments. Now, when I myself hear that somebody is dead, I simply shrug and say what the Tralfamadorians say about dead people, which is “So it goes.”

This is the passage where the novel explains its own refrain — Billy Pilgrim writing to a newspaper. It is worth noticing that the three words are introduced as a quotation of somebody else.

Slaughterhouse-Five — style and the “So it goes” refrain

How we verified this

  • Wikipedia’s article on Slaughterhouse-Five ↗ documents the phrase in its Style section — used “as a refrain when events of death, dying, and mortality occur or are mentioned” — and reproduces the explanatory passage above, cited to pp. 25–26 of the novel.
  • Wikiquote’s sourced Vonnegut page ↗ lists “So it goes.” under Slaughterhouse-Five (1969) as a recurring statement throughout the novel.
  • The same page places the phrase earlier: it appears in the introduction Vonnegut wrote in 1966 ↗ for Mother Night — “If I’d been born in Germany, I suppose I would have been a Nazi … So it goes.” Mother Night ↗ itself was first published in February 1962.
  • Scholars treat the repetition as the book’s central device rather than a verbal tic: Wikipedia cites ↗ Bergenholtz and Clark in Thalia (1998) on readers being “both amused and disturbed by this indiscriminate use of ‘So it goes.’”
In copyright

Slaughterhouse-Five was published in 1969 and the Mother Night introduction in 1966 — both long after the 1931 United States public-domain threshold, and Vonnegut died in 2007. The novel is in copyright. (A three-word phrase is in any case too short to be anyone’s property; what is protected is the book.)

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Fact-check

Really his — but not quite his motto

No competing author to debunk here. What gets lost is who is speaking, and when he first wrote it.

the Tralfamadorians quoted, not authored

Inside the novel the words belong to aliens. Billy Pilgrim says he shrugs and repeats “what the Tralfamadorians say about dead people, which is ‘So it goes’” — the passage Wikipedia quotes ↗ from pp. 25–26. Presenting it as Vonnegut’s personal philosophy skips the frame he built around it.

“Slaughterhouse-Five, 1969” earlier printing, not the origin

That is where it became famous, not where it starts. Wikiquote’s sourced page ↗ places “So it goes.” in the introduction Vonnegut wrote in 1966 for Mother Night — three years before the novel.

the phrase, and what he did with it popularizer, not coiner

“So it goes” is ordinary English and was in everyday use long before 1969. What Vonnegut made was not the phrase but its use as a refrain — a flat, repeated marker set down after each death in a book about a massacre.

Verdict: unquestionably Vonnegut’s — the refrain of Slaughterhouse-Five ↗ (1969), and in print in his hands by 1966.

Context

Why it mattered

Vonnegut was in Dresden as a prisoner of war in February 1945, in the cellar of a slaughterhouse, while the city above burned. He spent twenty-four years failing to write the book about it. What he eventually found was not a way to describe the massacre but a way to refuse to editorialise about it.

“So it goes” is that refusal, in three words. It follows the deaths in the novel and every mention of mortality — a hobo dead in a boxcar, a bottle of champagne gone flat — and it grades none of them. Readers have argued ever since about whether that flatness is fatalism or the loudest available protest.

“So it goes.”

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The critics Robert Merrill and Peter A. Scholl objected that Vonnegut’s critics mistake the Tralfamadorians’ view for his own. Alfred Kazin heard “arch fatalism.” Anthony Burgess called the whole book an evasion. Asked directly how wanting to improve the world squared with the novel’s theory of time, Vonnegut replied: “you understand, of course, that everything I say is horseshit.”

The phrase has long since detached from the book. It is the title of songs by Nick Lowe, the Verve, Taylor Swift and Mac Miller, and of episodes of at least three television dramas — usually deployed as a shrug, which is roughly a hundred and eighty degrees from a Dresden cellar.

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Slaughterhouse-Fiveen.wikipedia.org

Style section documenting the refrain’s function, with the novel’s self-explaining passage cited to pp. 25–26.
Kurt Vonneguten.wikiquote.org

Sourced entries for both the Slaughterhouse-Five refrain and the 1966 Mother Night introduction.
Mother Nighten.wikipedia.org

Publication history of the 1962 novel to whose later printing Vonnegut added the 1966 introduction.
Kurt Vonneguten.wikipedia.org

Biography, bibliography and dates for the author.

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About Kurt Vonnegut

Kurt Vonnegut

1922–2007 · American novelist, essayist & Dresden POW

Kurt Vonnegut (1922–2007) was an American novelist and essayist who survived the Allied firebombing of Dresden as a prisoner of war and spent the rest of his career writing about it, obliquely and then directly. Cat’s Cradle, Slaughterhouse-Five and Breakfast of Champions fused science fiction, black comedy and moral seriousness into a voice nobody has successfully imitated. In his last decades he wrote more essays than novels, and became one of the most quoted — and most misquoted — American writers on the internet.

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Kurt Vonnegut, Slaughterhouse-Five, or The Children’s Crusade: A Duty-Dance with Death (New York: Delacorte Press, 1969) — a refrain recurring throughout; the passage explaining it is at 25–26 in the Bantam Doubleday Dell printing. Vonnegut had used the phrase earlier in his 1966 introduction to Mother Night.

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