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That's the trouble, a sex symbol becomes a thing. I just hate to be a thing

Spoken by Marilyn Monroe
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She said it to LIFE. The line runs in the long first-person monologue that associate editor Richard Meryman assembled from taped conversations, published in the issue dated 3 August 1962. Quote Investigator ↗ places it at page 36, column 3, and gives Monroe the credit — and the wording that circulates today is the wording LIFE printed.

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“That's the trouble, a sex symbol becomes a thing. I just hate to be a thing” Marilyn Monroe, as told to Richard Meryman, "Fame will go by and—so long, I've had you," LIFE, vol. 53, no. 5, 3 August 1962, p. 36.

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Provenance

The LIFE interview, August 1962

Publication
LIFE, Vol. 53, No. 5 — 3 August 1962 (Time Inc.)
Article
Fame will go by and—so long, I’ve had you
Interviewer
Richard Meryman, LIFE associate editor
Location
Starts p. 31; the line at p. 36, column 3

I never quite understood it — this sex symbol — I always thought symbols were those things you clash together! That’s the trouble, a sex symbol becomes a thing. I just hate to be a thing. But if I’m going to be a symbol of something I’d rather have it sex than some other things they’ve got symbols of! LIFE, 3 Aug 1962 · p. 36

The famous sentences are the middle of a joke. Monroe sets it up by pretending to mishear symbol as cymbal — the crash-together kind — and finishes by saying that if she has to be a symbol of something, sex beats most of the alternatives. Nearly every version in circulation keeps only the two sentences in between.

Digitised magazine issue
LIFE, 3 August 1962, on Google Books
Quote Investigator: the LIFE 1962 monologue

How the line travelled

  • 3 August 1962 — LIFE. The remark appears in the monologue LIFE built from a series of taped conversations between Monroe and associate editor Richard Meryman. Quote Investigator ↗ cites the issue as Vol. 53, No. 5, start page 31, quote at page 36, column 3, and reproduces the full passage — pun and all.
  • Later in 1962 — into book form. Richard Schickel’s The Stars carried the line in its Marilyn chapter within the same year, already softened to “I just hate being a thing” — a page QI verified with scans ↗. The 1962 Bonanza Books edition is catalogued at the Internet Archive ↗.
  • 1972 — the sentences get shuffled. Wikiquote’s Quotes section ↗ carries the remark with its clauses re-ordered — the “I’d rather it be sex” line moved ahead of “I hate to be a thing” — and sources it to Ms. magazine (August 1972), p. 40 rather than to LIFE.
  • 1992 — the reference-book version. QI records ↗ that The New York Public Library Book of Twentieth-Century American Quotations printed a clipped “A sex symbol becomes a thing. I hate being a thing,” crediting not LIFE but Jeremy Pascall and Clive Jeavons’ A Pictorial History of Sex in the Movies (1975).

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What goes wrong with this one

Marilyn Monroe is one of the internet’s most abused quote sources — enough that a genuine line like this one gets doubted on sight. This one is real. What goes wrong is the wording, the sourcing, and the company it keeps.

The wording“I just hate being a thing” Variant

LIFE printed “I just hate to be a thing.” The being form entered circulation almost at once: Quote Investigator ↗ shows Richard Schickel using it in 1962 and a 1992 quotation dictionary shortening it further to “A sex symbol becomes a thing. I hate being a thing.”

The orderWikiquote’s sourced entry Re-ordered

Wikiquote ↗ lists the remark with its clauses swapped and cites Ms. magazine (August 1972), p. 40 — a reprint a decade downstream of the LIFE original, not the source itself.

The missing jokeNearly every meme version Truncated

The setup is a pun: Monroe says she never understood “this sex symbol” because she always thought symbols were the things you clash together. QI reproduces the whole passage ↗. Cropped to two sentences it reads as pure lament; in place it is a joke that curdles.

A neighbouring line“A sex symbol is a heavy load to carry when one is tired, hurt and bewildered” Not Monroe

Routinely pinned to Monroe alongside this one. Wikiquote’s Misattributed section ↗ says it was actually said by Clara Bow.

The quote is genuine and the popular wording is the original: Monroe said it to LIFE associate editor Richard Meryman, and it ran in the issue dated 3 August 1962. Quote Investigator ↗ places it at page 36 of that issue and concludes she should receive the credit.

Context

Why it mattered

Meryman sat down with Monroe after she had been fired from Something’s Got to Give. He taped hours of conversation and then did the thing he had made his signature at LIFE: cut the interviewer out entirely and assemble the subject’s words into continuous first-person speech. That format is why the line lands like a confession rather than an answer — there is no question standing in front of it.

And it is self-analysis, not self-pity. Monroe does not refuse the label; she says that if she must be a symbol of something, sex beats most of the alternatives. Her objection is grammatical. A symbol is a thing, and a thing has no interior. In the same stretch of the article she defends sexuality as natural and as the origin of art — the complaint is about being flattened into an emblem, not about the subject of the emblem.

“I always thought symbols were those things you clash together!”

Why the LIFE monologue reads the way it does

Meryman built his reputation at LIFE on the celebrity monologue — the reporter’s questions stripped out, the subject’s words assembled into a self-portrait on the page. His Wikipedia entry ↗ records that he worked from a total of about eight hours of tape and that LIFE ran the result in the issue dated 3 August 1962.

The tapes outlived the article: the same source ↗ notes they became the basis of the 1992 HBO programme Marilyn: The Last Interview.

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About Marilyn Monroe

Marilyn Monroe

1926–1962 · American actress and model

Born Norma Jeane Mortenson on 1 June 1926, Marilyn Monroe spent a decade as a top-billed Hollywood star, best known for playing comic “blonde bombshell” roles and for becoming one of the most recognisable sex symbols of the 1950s and early 1960s. She died on 4 August 1962. The remark on this page comes from the taped conversations she gave LIFE after being fired from Something’s Got to Give — a rare stretch of her talking, at length and in her own voice, about what the label had cost her.

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Marilyn Monroe, “Marilyn Monroe lets her hair down about being famous: Fame will go by and—so long, I’ve had you,” as told to Richard Meryman, LIFE 53, no. 5 (3 August 1962): 31–36; the line at p. 36, col. 3. Traced and verified by Quote Investigator.

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