The thought draws on Kierkegaard’s The Sickness unto Death (1849), but this tidy English sentence is a later condensation. QI traces its route through Carl Rogers’s interpretation and Howard Sasportas’s further paraphrase, not an exact Kierkegaard passage.
“The most common form of despair is not being who you are” Modern paraphrase of Kierkegaard’s ideas, developed through Carl Rogers and Howard Sasportas; not a verbatim Kierkegaard quotation. · Verbatim: “in despair at not willing to be oneself”
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Provenance
The source
Underlying work
The Sickness unto Death (1849)
English comparison
Walter Lowrie’s 1941 translation, as transcribed by QI
Later development
Rogers (1956), Rowan (1983), Sasportas (1985); exact popular form documented in 2003
The displayed aphorism is modern English, not a cleared quotation from the 1849 Danish original. The brief comparison excerpt is from Walter Lowrie’s 1941 translation, itself treated as in copyright.
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The credited thinker is relevant; the problem is treating a later paraphrase as his exact English sentence.
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Wording comparison: Søren Kierkegaard
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✓Describe this as a modern paraphrase of Kierkegaard, developed through Rogers and Sasportas.
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Why it mattered
What began as a theological analysis became a compact lesson in authenticity as it passed through humanistic psychology and later popular writing. Rogers read Kierkegaard as describing the responsibility of choosing to be oneself; Sasportas condensed that interpretation, and subsequent quotation books made it look like a sentence lifted directly from Kierkegaard.
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Søren Kierkegaard explored faith, anxiety, choice and the difficulty of becoming a self, often through pseudonymous voices. The Sickness unto Death appeared under the name Anti-Climacus and treats despair as a problem in a person’s relation to the self and to God.
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The primary source (Chicago)
Kierkegaard, Søren. The Sickness Unto Death. Translated by Walter Lowrie. Oxford University Press, 1941, 83. Comparison and transmission chronology in Quote Investigator, January 24, 2025; primary edition not independently inspected.
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