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As I began to love myself I found that anguish and emotional suffering are only warning signs

Not Charlie Chaplin — a re-translation of Kim McMillen Kim McMillen American writer · author of When I Loved Myself Enough (St. Martin’s Press, 2001)
No Chaplin speech, script, letter or memoir has ever been produced containing this wording; the traceable trail leads to a 2001 self-love book and a round trip through Portuguese. Rights unconfirmed

Wikiquote lists this line among Chaplin’s misattributed quotations and identifies it as a re-translation, from Brazilian Portuguese, of text from When I Loved Myself Enough by Kim & Alison McMillen (2001) — not from any speech, book or letter of Chaplin’s. The popular framing, a “speech Charlie Chaplin gave on his 70th birthday,” has no documented source; Chaplin’s own office has stated flatly that he did not write it.

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“As I began to love myself I found that anguish and emotional suffering are only warning signs” NOT Charlie Chaplin. The line is an English re-translation of a Brazilian Portuguese version of Kim McMillen's "When I Loved Myself Enough" (St. Martin's Press, 2001). Wikiquote lists it under Chaplin's misattributed quotations; Chaplin's office has said he did not write it. Traced by Quotle.info, 22 Jul 2026.

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Provenance

Where the line actually comes from

Circulating claim
“Speech Charlie Chaplin gave on his 70th birthday” — undocumented
Actual source text
When I Loved Myself Enough
Authors & publication
Kim McMillen with Alison McMillen — St. Martin’s Press, 2001
Translation
Unsigned English re-translation of a Brazilian Portuguese version

As I began to love myself I found that anguish and emotional suffering are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth. Today, I know, this is “AUTHENTICITY”. circulating version

This is the circulating text as Wikiquote records it in Chaplin’s Misattributed section — a re-translation, not a passage from any Chaplin work and not McMillen’s published English.

Wikiquote: Charlie Chaplin, Misattributed

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  • Wikiquote’s Charlie Chaplin page ↗ lists the exact sentence under Misattributed, calling it a re-translation from Portuguese-BR of text from When I Loved Myself Enough by Kim & Alison McMillen (2001).
  • Chaplin’s Office, quoted by a researcher who wrote to them, replied that the text was “NOT WRITTEN BY Charlie Chaplin” and comes from the McMillen book — read the exchange ↗.
  • The real book is easy to pin down: Open Library’s edition record ↗ gives When I Loved Myself Enough, St. Martin’s Press, 2001, 82 pages.
  • Its publisher describes the book as beginning “as one woman’s gift to the world, hand-made by Kim McMillen and handed out to friends,” with Alison continuing the work after Kim’s death — publisher page ↗.

No rights status is asserted for this exact English wording, because its origin is an unsigned re-translation with no identifiable publication. The underlying work it derives from — Kim and Alison McMillen’s When I Loved Myself Enough, published by St. Martin’s Press in 2001 — is firmly in copyright, so this text should not be treated as public domain.

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The misattribution, unpicked

This is one of the internet’s most-shared fake Chaplin texts — usually posted as a whole poem, “As I Began to Love Myself,” complete with a date and an occasion that no archive can corroborate.

Charlie Chaplin Misattributed

Wikiquote places the line in its Misattributed section for Chaplin and explains it is “a re-translation (from Portuguese-BR) of a text from the book ‘When I Loved Myself Enough’ by Kim & Alison McMillen (2001)” — see the entry ↗.

A speech on his 70th birthday, 16 April 1959 Unsupported

Wikiquote attributes the “speech that Charlie Chaplin gave on his 70th birthday” framing to many sites and blogs, not to any documented record; no script, recording or press report of such a speech has been produced. Wikiquote ↗

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The English sentence people share is not McMillen’s published English either — it is an unsigned translation back out of a Brazilian Portuguese rendering, which is why its rhythm and vocabulary match neither Chaplin nor the original book.

Chaplin’s own office has said it plainly: the text was not written by Charlie Chaplin and comes from Kim and Alison McMillen’s book — the office’s statement, quoted in full ↗.

Context

How a self-help booklet became a Chaplin speech

The line belongs to a family of short reflections that all open the same way: When I loved myself enough… Kim McMillen wrote them as a private reckoning and gave them away as handmade booklets; after her death her daughter Alison kept producing them, and word of mouth carried the book to St. Martin’s Press, which published it in 2001.

The text was translated widely, and a Brazilian Portuguese version circulated hard on early blogs and email forwards. Somewhere in that circulation the author’s name fell off and Chaplin’s was pinned on — usually with the irresistible detail that he read it aloud on his 70th birthday. The English sentence people share today is a translation of that translation, which is why it reads nothing like Chaplin’s actual prose.

The version in English is a translation of a translation — which is why nobody can find it in anything Chaplin wrote.

Why the “70th birthday speech” detail should have been the tell

Chaplin was an unusually well-documented man: his films, scripts, correspondence and 1964 autobiography have been picked over by archivists for decades. A speech delivered on a famous birthday would be the easiest thing in the world to source — and no one ever has. Wikiquote notes the “70th birthday” framing comes from “many sites and blogs,” not from any record.

Chaplin’s office has answered the question directly, telling a researcher that the text was not written by him and comes from the McMillen book. That is about as close to a definitive denial as a quote investigation gets.

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Charlie Chaplin — Wikiquote (Misattributed)en.wikiquote.org

Lists this exact line under Misattributed and identifies it as a re-translation from Brazilian Portuguese of the McMillen book (2001).
When I Loved Myself Enough — Open Library recordopenlibrary.org

Catalogue record for the real source book: Kim and Alison McMillen, St. Martin’s Press, 2001, 82 pages.
When I Loved Myself Enough — Internet Archivearchive.org

Scanned lending copy of the book credited to “Kim McMillen with Alison McMillen.”
Publisher page — Pan Macmillanwww.panmacmillan.com

Publisher’s account of the book’s handmade origins and Alison McMillen continuing it after Kim’s death.
The book’s official sitewhenilovedmyselfenough.com

The McMillen family’s own page on the book’s history and its route to St. Martin’s Press.
Chaplin’s office on the self-love poemauthorjoannereed.net

Quotes Chaplin’s Office stating the text was not written by Chaplin and comes from the McMillen book.

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Who actually wrote it

Kim McMillen

American writer · author of When I Loved Myself Enough (St. Martin's Press, 2001)

Kim McMillen wrote short first-person reflections on self-acceptance, each beginning “When I loved myself enough…” The collection began, in her publisher’s words, as one woman’s gift to the world — handmade and handed out to friends. She did not live to see how far the words travelled; after her death her daughter Alison McMillen kept making the books and brought the manuscript to St. Martin’s Press, which published it in 2001.

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Source & provenance

Kim McMillen with Alison McMillen, When I Loved Myself Enough (New York: St. Martin's Press, 2001). The wording circulated as Chaplin's is an English re-translation of a Brazilian Portuguese version of that text; see “Charlie Chaplin,” Wikiquote, Misattributed section.

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